'...Solomon writes, "Blessed are the sons of the righteous after their fathers' death" (Prov. 20:7). This is not only because of their holy upbringing, which is surely of no little importance; but because of the blessing promised in the covenant, that God's grace shall everlastingly abide in the families of the pious'
I've found this reformed doctrine to be the one of the least well known in reformed church circles. Whenever it is brought up as a possibility, most people reply with some kind of indignant shock, and say (understandably) "But surely we are saved by faith only?". Others have replied with "The children aren't saved, but receive the blessings of the new covenant", to which they mean belonging to a Christian home where they are prayed for, have the bible read and so forth.
I find both replies less than satisfying, but I'm still not sure where I stand on the issue. I'm going to baptise my children. However my minister, who doesn't believe children are members of the covenant, always asks the parents publically at their child's baptism "So you don't believe in spiritual grandchildren, do you?" (expecting the answer to be "of course not").
Any thoughts? Recommended readings?